It can be a long bumpy road for toddlers that are frustrated. They wish to display independence but they aren’t always able to move like they wish or communicate their desires and needs to others.
This can be a lethal combination and create what every parent fears: the temper tantrum.
How can you redirect your child and help them to behave properly in public while still giving them unconditional love, encouragement, and attention?
By following these time tested practical parental guidelines to help you child adjust and learn how to maintain their little tempers.
Show Them You Love Them
One of the most effective tips is to show your child that you love them always. Be affectionate and shower them with hugs, kisses and some innocent roughhousing to show them how much you care and love them. Give them regular praise and plenty of attention to encourage them to follow the rules.
Keep the Rules Simple
Don’t burden your child with a rule book. This is frustrating and can be too big of a challenge. Keep the rules simple and childproof your home to prevent temper tantrums.
Prevent a Temper Tantrum
While tantrums are normal for a child of two, you can reduce how often they toddler temper tantrums happen by following these time tested parenting tips:
Encourage your Child to Communicate
Teach your child the words for what they eat, drink and how they’re feeling.
Use simple words, sign language or motions to help them communicate and respond back in like when needed.
Learn your Child’s Limitations
If your child is displaying bad behavior, find out why. Perhaps they don’t understand what you want from them.
Don’t Overreact to “NO”
If your toddler says “NO” don’t over react. You’ll only add fuel to the flames. Give them a second chance and again ask them calmly to “please pick up your toy”.
Offer a Choice If Possible
This puts the child in charge. You can say, “Please pick up your toy or take a nap”. When given a choice, many children opt for the better liked option. Give them choices in clothing, “the blue shirt? or the red shirt?”. Being in charge is what it’s all about for a toddler and you can easily manipulate this into your own win win situation.
Create a Routine
Children thrive on routine. Sticking to a routine helps your child to expect what happens next and reduces the risk of negative behaviors.
Talk About Consequences
Even the best mom or dad has to face that their child is in trouble sometimes. Avoid removing food, water, bathroom trips but consider favorite toys, television and the like as consequences. Always give them love.
Refuse a Privilege
If your child won’t behave, remove a privilege. The loss of a visit to a friend, a favorite park or something will help them to remember that it was a privilege they don’t wish to lose next time.
Use Time Outs
After so many warnings (two or three) give a time out. Redirect them to the time out area and allow them to decompress.
Remember to keep all distractions out of time out. They’re there to decompress not play. Use one minute per year of age and set a timer.
Let them know that while in time out, they must sit quietly and think about what they did wrong. Allow potty breaks (within reason) water and food.
Be the Role Model You Want Your Child To Be
Children mimic their peers and adults. They learn by action. If you don’t want your child to do it, don’t do it yourself, your “minnie me” might follow suit.
Learn more about dealing with toddler behaviors by watching this parenting tips free video.